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Thirty years ago, at 14, I made a huge mistake. I married my first boyfriend because I was pregnant with his child. I was trapped in an abusive relationship with a man who refused to work and only wanted to live off government assistance. I vowed to work myself out of that life and didn't believe in any of that.

I went to college, got my degree and became a teacher. I enjoyed working with children in school and spending time with my children. My husband became more abusive. I left the marriage ten years ago with the hope of building a happy life for myself and my children.

I had never heard of alimony before the divorce. If I left this horrible situation, I would have to continue to work and pay a lot of money to a man who refused to work, abused his family and still refuses to even look for work. How could this happen?

Florida law allows it to happen, and divorce lawyers drain families of all their savings and assets to get as much alimony as possible for their clients, in this case my ex-husband. Costly, lengthy litigation is encouraged by the inconsistency of outcomes in court. Who really wins? Divorce lawyers.

I had to pay lifetime alimony to a man who never cared for his children, who lives far away, and who has never even tried to sustain himself. I've been paying him for the past 10 years, while I've improved myself. I have to do this forever, until I die. How is this fair?

The alimony reform legislation should be signed by the governor. The bill would make it harder for divorce lawyers to use children as bargaining chips in divorce proceedings when mothers and fathers are already going through a challenging time.

The right to retire for alimony payers like me is rarely enforced by the courts. Old laws and divorce attorneys fees make it difficult to modify alimony agreements. The governor can help Florida's families by signing a bill that will bring equity, predictability and an opportunity for alimony payers like me to retire with dignity.

A public school teacher is paying lifetime alimony to her ex- husband.

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