It can feel like the most inspired idea in the universe until you are thrust into at an awkward angle by someone whose height doesn't match yours. Sometimes, it ends up being a situation where we went for it and it wasn't great. Moumi Ghose is a sex therapist.

Having sex standing up can be problematic. "Standing up sex is great for daring and adventurous lovers but the one thing that is missing is the aspect of stability, which comes from a better, flat surface," Ghose said.

Don't be discouraged. There are ways that you can make standing sex happen, even if it's not easy.

If you want to have the best experience, check out this complete guide.

The appeal of standing sex

People are horny for standing sex because it's complicated. Part of the appeal is that it isn't easy. Standing sex is a great way to show off your strength and flexibility, according to the sex expert at Sniffies. The appeal seems clear in a world where good sex is considered the most acrobatic sex.

Some standing positions allow you to hit different angles which can enhance pleasure.

It has an element of the "I can’t wait to have you so get against this wall" level of passion that most people love to feel towards and from a partner.

It is possible to change up the routine. The appeal of standing sex is that it gets you out of the bed and out of the bedroom to give a boost to your sex life. Next thing you know, we're bored. It is enjoyable to try new things.

You have the option of standing sex. It's possible to have it in a closet, shower, hallway, or any other location you want.

It has an element of passion that most people love to feel towards a partner.

Take advantage of support aids

It's amazing that chairs, walls, counters, queening chairs, and anything that allows for all people with all bodies and abilities to stand and have sex is possible. It will allow you to sustain the position for longer by taking some pressure off of your muscles. If you're doing a standing doggy style, the bottom can put their hands on the wall in front of them.

The receiving partner can sit with their legs wrapped around the standing partner. Ghose says that face-to-face standing sex is good for kissing.

It doesn't make your standing sexless than if you use surfaces and furniture.

This is the first thing. Sex needs to be enjoyable.

There are two Sex can be done in a way that makes it better for you.

Get after it, whatever you can do to make your sex life better.

Don’t go die-hard for penetration

We do ourselves a disservice when we refer to sex as pedagogic. Sex is not defined by a single definition.

Standing sex is better with oral sex. "I think there's something about standing sex that makes you want to smother your face," says Zane. One partner squats over the other, and the person underneath eats out the ass or vagina of the person on top of them.

Are you in need of an additional cushion? Put a cushion under your knees. If one person wants to lie down, or has limited mobility, you can have the giving partner lie down in front of the receiving partner.

Get some toys into the play

Don't be afraid to bring toys with you when you're having sex. Standing sex is hot if you use your favorite senhancer on yourself.

You might be wondering where the toys are for standing sex. It's another chance to be creative. If you are in the kitchen, you can use a wooden spoon as a paddle. If you are in the laundry room, grab a clean t-shirt or pair of panties and make your own handcuffs. It's all about making the experience better.

Use lube when you have standing sex. Sex is better when you have lubrication.

3 standing sex positions to get you started

There are a few places to start. If you don't want to include penetration, all of these positions can be changed to include sex toys. Find what works for you with experimentation.

  1. Downward facing dog.

The person being penetrated has their knees bent with their hands on the floor. The person penetrating has both hands on their partner's hip. This position allows for penetration andspank on the buttocks.

One partner is entering the other from behind. The receiving partner can rest their hands on the bed.

If the partner is taller than the receiver, this position can be difficult to pull off. If that is the case, the receiver should try to find a bed that will allow them to rest their knees higher up.

The position is intimate and allows for both eye contact and penetration.

It is possible to have sex on the floor or bed if you are not feeling it. It is a real kill boner killer if you put pressure on yourself to have sex.