She was tired of men taking advantage of her generosity.
She said she met successful men after raising her expectations.
This is the story of Lucas.
The as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with a friend. It has been edited to make it clearer.
I had a lot of soul searching last year.
The type of men I dated was the most important change I had to make. They were emotionally immature and irresponsible.
I would let them go. A man wanted money because he couldn't afford rent. He wouldn't be able to afford it because he'd spent his entire salary on weed.
A guy left his car at my house for a while. He didn't have enough money to pay for the maintenance. The oil was leaking. He used my insurance to take it away.
Those experiences made me want to meet a man with a handle on his life and who could make interesting conversations. I wanted to spend time with someone.
I was told about Seeking by a friend. Matching successful and attractive people is what it does. In August of 2021.
There are different levels of memberships. The monthly cost for the top tier is $275. When a person joins at the highest level, they can post their income, net worth, and lifestyle budget.
I wanted to meet men with similar interests. I'm trying to establish my own business. It would be great to be among people who know how to negotiate. I wanted them to help or mentor me.
I spoke to a few people. The majority of them were in their 50's. One of the people I met was from my hometown of San Francisco. He was kind and smart. The dog was brought to the date by his owner. We did not see each other again.
I was dating an international businessman in the fall. He was younger than me. When I told him that I was going on a trip to France, we had been on many dates. One of my favorite countries is it. Are you going to visit me? I asked with a bit of humor.
He wanted to come and ask when I was leaving. I did not buy my tickets yet.
He asked if he could do that for you.
My breath was taken away by it. I had to be independent, save up my money, and plan my trip in my previous relationships. There was a person who wanted to support me in my passion for France. I was thinking about it for a while. Then I agreed. I would like to thank you.
When I booked the flights, he hovered over me. He said he would give you the credit card and we could do it. He told them not to get sticker shock when the price went up. I thought the tickets would pay off my car.
I lived in Paris for a short time. When he was in Europe he would come to visit. We would go to the vineyards of the Loire Valley.
The Christmas and New Year's were gorgeous. We stayed at a chateau in Bordeaux. We had everything we needed to ourselves. At midnight, we played hide andseek.
He brought me to London and bought me a bag. The cost was about $11k. Is it ok for me to buy you a bag when we're in a relationship? He told me to be patient. I was considering buying Christian Dior, but decided against it. I'm happy that I'm with you. How many men would just walk off and purchase a bag?
We had a lot of discussions about business. He helped me refine my idea.
We arrived at a fork in the road. We decided to part ways. It was the wrong person. There was a lot happening in our work. As friends, we parted ways.
On Seeking, I dated a few more guys. They were intriguing. I was able to connect with a man who lived in the Bay Area. The man was in his 50s.
He wanted to know if I would join him on the business trip to Seattle. We stayed at a five star hotel. I did my own thing when he was in a meeting. He gave me his credit card and told me to use it. He said I should go shopping with everything on him.
I inquired if I could purchase a bag. He agreed. I bought a bag that cost a lot of money.
He paid for me to go to the East Coast with my family. I don't think first class is a good use of money when you travel domestically. You get to your destination and are still alive. To afford it, I will have to work hard. I'm not sure if I could ever return to the economy.
We had a good time. He didn't always have it easy. He was raised by a single parent. He was able to pull himself up by his bootstraps. I learned a lot from him, even though we're no longer together.
I've been working in corporate America for a decade. I know a lot about business dealings. I have read a lot. It was nice to meet a person with the same thoughts. I was concerned that people who were successful would be intimidated. Behind the curtain was a glimpse. They are just like everyone else.
Over the last year or so, I have never had a better sex. It has been respectful and easy to communicate with.
The businessmen have a slight disadvantage. They don't use patience as their strongest suit. People are used to saying yes when they want it. They aren't the person I'm trying to partner with if they can't handle that.
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