My friend sex-shamed me. Do I have to include her in my wedding?

I'm not sure if it's worth it to make up with an old friend before I marry for the sake of keeping the peace with my friends. A group of friends are studying abroad together. When we returned, we all lived together. The girls and I had a falling out. She was very judgmental of my sex life. I distanced myself from her because of this, but I was still very close with the rest of the group.

Things got worse when I heard the racist comments from the boyfriend. I didn't have to make a decision on going to the wedding because of the reduced guest list. Since people are getting married and having showers, I've started to see them more, but it's just been a while.

If I wear a black dress, my mom won't attend. Which one is right?

The issue at this point. I am getting ready for a wedding. I was approached by a friend who asked if I would invite him to my wedding. We have to cut our family down so it will only be our friends and family. She told me that it would be weird if I didn't see my friend at a big life event, and that I should talk to her about our differences.

Over the years, I was left out of events that the group of friends had all had together, and I was upset because I thought things had gotten better. There are things as small as a birthday. I was not invited to the shower. I asked why I wasn't allowed to attend life events, but I wasn't. She said that the events are in the past and should not happen again.

We don't like our friend's partner. She should be invited to our wedding.

Even though I don't want her at my wedding, I feel pressured to invite her. I don't understand why it's my responsibility to patch things up when my feelings are not taken into account. Is it a good idea to just invite her? Do I have to invite her to my party if I invite her to the wedding?

First of all, I wish you good luck on your wedding! If you don't want toNVITE KATIE, you don't have to. The guest list is up to you and your partner, and you shouldn't feel pressured from a friend. You didn't make the cut for the wedding because you were having a somewhat intimate wedding and the same thing happened to someone else. It was strange for everyone in the group to not be with you at her wedding. For an appropriate guest list, you have to cut down on family. If it came down to it, what would you do? I think it would be an easy decision for the couple to make.

At the end of the day, it's not your job to be the peacekeeper, and it sounds like you're content with how your relationship withKatie is. Unless you really want to leave something behind for your own peace of mind, there is no need to "hash things out". It sounds like this friend of yours may have felt the need to insert herself even though it was inappropriate. You aren't allowed the same consideration on your wedding day as you were on this friend group's previous one.

Advice: "Who in their right mind thinks this is okay?"

She doesn't need an invite to your party if you just invite her to your wedding. I think bachelorette parties are an experience for close friends. She didn't invite you to hers so no need to feel obligated to do so. Don't make others happy by choosing your guest list based on who makes you feel appreciated. Maybe they weren't quality friends in the first place because they wouldn't support you on your day if this friend wasn't in attendance.

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