We clicked immediately after I met my boyfriend on Hinge. After a year, we moved in and acted like a married couple. We lost a lot of the romance through that, but I always believed we could find it again because we were best friends. I was concerned about the lack of romance in our relationship and felt like I finally saw it again. I thought things were going well until one day he came home from work and said it was not working out.
Even though he still loved me, he fell out of love with me. He said that he didn't want to be intimate with me and that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Three days before, we were hanging out with his family and discussing our future plans.
My boyfriend doesn't want to be intimate with me and hasn't taken me on a date in four years. I don't know when I'm going to end it.
He told me that he had doubts about me before he broke up with me. In May, he ended it. He told me that he just kind of shoved it down and thought about it. We broke up a month ago and I am lost. He doesn't think that everything in me is my person. I moved my life out to another town, started a new job and had to grieve the loss of our relationship, so I have to start over. I don't know what to do next.
I apologize that you are going through a difficult time with your break up. They are never easy and can cause a lot of pain. Where should I go from here?
You can't change his mind, but you can try to get back what you had. You shouldn't even attempt it. Your partner wants to be with you. He didn't communicate with you for almost five months because he didn't change his mind so fast. Feelings do ebb and flow for long-term partners, and maybe your relationship would have become stronger if he would have opened up. Quality communication is important to a long-term relationship and it wasn't present here.
I have to pay for my boyfriend's divorce. This relationship is worth saving.
You and your partner seem to be unbalanced in terms of sacrifice and commitment. You started from the ground up to make this happen. He may have made similar sacrifice.
You should be able to have someone choose you. It is time to focus on yourself. Being single isn't a curse, it can be an amazing time to have an adventure, find what really makes you happy, and focus on personal goals Don't do it with the hope that he will change his mind. You can build a life that is sufficient without him by finding your own friends. I don't think we need our partners to have a happy life, but they do.
After just a few months, my boyfriend completely changed. I don't know if I should leave.
It is possible that he will come back into your life down the road and make an apology for his actions. What happens next will be up to you, but I would really like to know if you can trust him not to change his mind suddenly again. If you know you deserve to be loved, communicated with openly, and not just an option, you will be more likely to accept it.
Morgan Absher is an occupational therapist in Los Angeles who hosts a radio show called "Two Hot Takes" where she and her co- hosts give out advice. She shares her advice in a weekly column. She can be found on TikTok, Twohottakes and on the internet. If you would like to share your story with her, you can do so by clicking here.
My long-termboyfriend dumped me out of the blue. I don't know what to do now.
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