Parents who make these 3 mistakes are more likely to raise narcissistic kids, says parenting expert

A child's family dynamic is one of the most significant predictors of their personality quirks in adulthood, according to a neuroscience researcher.

Children and teens are more selfish because their minds are still evolving. It is normal for them to be less self-awareness until they have learned some skills.

According to my experience, parents who make these three harmful mistakes are more likely to raise children with a high level of self-esteem.

Children are able to learn by observing and reflecting.

A waiter might make a mistake with your order. You humiliate the waiter by yelling at him. Your child sees how you reacted and thinks it's ok.

This is why it is so important to show your kids what emotional intelligence looks like.

It is a good idea to show them how they are feeling. Put a name to what you think they are feeling. Do you think your friend did the right thing?

It will be easier for them to express their feelings and be aware of how other people are feeling in the future if they practice EQ.

You are teaching your child that what they are feeling is wrong if you distract or shame them.

They will have a hard time regulating their behaviors, which can lead to a host of problems as they get older, from numbing behaviors like addiction to protective behaviors like grandiosity. Studies have shown that the root of a person's inner self is shame.

To mirror, you need to meet your child where they are and label their emotions.

You are picking up your child from school. They got into the car and slammed the door. Don't shame them for having a bad attitude by saying: "It looks like you had an awful day at school". Why did it happen?

Affirmative them and say, "That's not nice," once they've told you what happened. I know why you are upset. This doesn't mean you agree or disagree with their response. You are simply telling them that how they are feeling is normal.

They will improve at trusting their feelings over time.

Don't allow your child to throw a fit in public because they aren't getting their way. You don't need to shame your child, but it's important to get them out of the situation

Asking three questions is the way to start.

1. “What happened?”
2. “How are you feeling?”
3. “How do you think your reaction is making the other person (or the people around you) feel?”

You're helping them flex their empathy, social awareness and emotional regulation skills instead of accepting their emotional problems.

A lot of parents want to know how to tell when their child is showing signs of being a spoiled brat.

You can do a lot of tests. Ask your child what the characters are feeling when you watch a movie or read a book with them.

If they say that they feel sad or angry, then your child is on the correct path. You will know you have some work to do if they blow up or say they don't care.

If you don't feel like you have the skills to help your child with their personality disorders, consider working with a therapist who specializes in personality disorders.

It's possible to unlearn the habits we learned during childhood.

Neuroscience and behavioral science can be used to help adults and children overcome mental health challenges and improve their overall well-being.

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