The beginning of a pregnant woman's life can be daunting without the myths surrounding a baby's birth. You are not the only one who has suffered a loss. Around 1 million pregnancies are lost in the US every year. It is still devastating if it occurs more than once.

According to Dr. Zev Williams of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine and the Montefiore Health System, women should wait until the end of the first trimester to announce a baby. Miscarriage is common and can be underestimated. Miscarriage is rarely discussed in public.

According to the American Pregnancy Association, 85% of women who miscarry will have a healthy baby.

We talk to the experts about the myths. Here are some of the most common myths.

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1. Miscarriage is rare

The more we talk about it, the more we can reduce feelings of shame.

Many people wait until after the 12 week mark to let their friends and family know that they are pregnant.

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Recurrent miscarriages occur when a person has more than three consecutive miscarriages, although this diagnosis varies by country. Around 1% of women are diagnosed with recurrent miscarriages.

It is possible to have a healthy baby in the following months, and there is no evidence to support a delay in the birth of a child after a baby is born. Studies have shown that couples who try in the three months after a baby is born are more likely to have a healthy baby and have less time to get pregnant.

It is important to consult your doctor if you have had two or three miscarriages in a row, but be aware that guidelines differ between countries.

2. Miscarriage is the mother’s fault

Women shouldn't blame themselves if they think something went wrong in the carrying of the baby.

Most early miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormality, so it is out of our control.

No one has only eggs and sperm with normal chromosomes. One of the reasons why people don't become pregnant every time they have sex is because their eggs and sperm aren't good. When they do, a baby is born. The share of eggs with abnormal chromosomes increases with age.

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It can be caused by chromosomal infections and genetic factors, as well as other issues such as the shape of the womb and long term leath issues.

Infections in the womb are the most common cause of late miscarriages with 15% of them being attributed to this type of infections.

More research is needed in this area as we don't know the cause of all the cases.

Doctors are able to find the source of recurrent miscarriages in 25 to 50% of cases. It's very important to get to the root of the issue with a medical expert quickly.

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The most recent National Survey of Public Perceptions of Miscarriage found that nearly half of the people who had a direct or observed experience of a miscarriage felt guilty.

Taylor says that there should be no shame attached to the loss of a child. The situation is more difficult to deal with when there is no clear cause for a loss. Anyone who has lost a baby should be offered grief counseling.

Midwife Kate Taylor

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3. Multiple miscarriages mean you’re infertile

It doesn't mean you are infertile just because you have had a few. Fetal medicine experts will provide care for you throughout the whole pregnancy if you have two or more miscarriages.

It's difficult to experience a recurrent miscarriage, but the majority go on to have a baby. The risk of a maternal underlying health condition being the cause goes up when the risk of chromosomal issues decreasing decreases with each successive miscarriage. You should always consult a doctor after a couple of years if you want to try again.

There are a variety of issues that can be included in a standard miscarriage investigation. If you think it could be the cause of your miscarriage, you should bring up the issue with your doctor, as some clinics look into immunological factors as well.

4. Miscarriage is caused by physical or emotional stress

According to a survey of Americans in 2015, more than half of respondents thought that lifting a heavy object could cause a baby to be born without aetus. According to the research, 76 people said a stress event could cause a miscarriage, and 74 people said chronic stress could cause a pregnant woman to lose her baby. Williams says that this isn't true.

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In the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, it is advisable to avoid heavy lifting, as there is a small risk of miscarrying. Stress or emotional stress can make you upset, but it's not related to a baby's birth.

Taylor says that if emotional stress is affecting your physical health, and making your blood pressure go up, this may possibly affect the pregnancy. It could be related to raised blood pressure.

5. You should wait months before trying again

The WHO recommends six months to give the uterus time to heal, while the US recommends three months.

There is a major scientific review open in a new tab. The meta-analysis shows that women who try again within six months are less likely to suffer a second miscarriage.

The impact of falling pregnant within six months was examined by the research.

A study published in the journal BMJ showed that people who conceived within six months of a loss were less likely to miscarry than people who waited longer.

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Women who got pregnant sooner had a reduced risk of ectopic pregnancies, which happens when a fertilized egg implants in the fallopian tube, rather than the uterus.

Scottish women are more likely to have babies later in their reproductive years than women in other developed countries. The results may not be relevant to countries where women tend to get pregnant earlier.

If you want to try again after miscarrying, talk to your doctor. It is important that you choose the option that is best for your situation. You can usually try again once your bleeding has stopped, but some doctors recommend waiting until you have had your first period to try again. It can take some time to realize you are pregnant again, so setting the time of conception can be helpful.

It is up to you to decide what works best for your mental health after talking with your doctor. Losing a baby is never easy, no matter how far into the pregnancy you were, so don't feel pressured to return before you're ready.

6. You shouldn’t tell people about your miscarriage

Without having to grieve in secret, it can be difficult to cope with the loss of a loved one. Taylor says it is normal to feel a mixture of overwhelming emotions, including shock, numbness, guilt, shame, anger, numbness, failure and vulnerability, even if you did not lose a baby.

She says it's up to you as to who you tell and when. You should seek advice from a grief or pregnancy loss expert if you are having a hard time. This is a common occurrence and women should not be afraid to mention it. We shouldn't be ashamed of talking about it.

According to research, talking about losing a baby could speed up mental recovery. A survey found that almost half of participants had found comfort from a friend who had lost a baby. Almost a quarter of respondents said they felt less isolated after hearing famous people talk about their experiences of miscarrying.

Miscarriage can take its toll on anyone, even the person who experienced it.

More research is needed to establish how healthcare providers can emotionally support people who have experienced a miscarriage, however it appears that talking about it can help reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness. There are a lot of options for those who want to look after their mental health post-miscarriage.

Live Science contributor Alice Ball updated the article on August 11th, 2022. The constitutional right to abortion was eliminated by this decision, which was upheld in a 1992 case.