Why a narcissist won't leave you alone after your relationship ends, according to a psychologist

• If you end a relationship with a narcissist, they may view it as a sign of weakness.

• They might try to make you feel guilty by ignoring your no-contact boundary.

• The best strategy is to ignore their attempts and block them.

If you end a relationship with a person who has a heightened sense of self-importance, they will probably ignore any boundaries you set.

According to Craig Malkin, a psychologist and author of "Rethinking Narcissism," a sign of a decline in exceptional status is relationship dissolution. They might try to prove your decision was wrong or blame the other person. Since their underlying thinking is the same, they can act out in similar ways even if the relationship ends.

"If you're not thinking about me, and I'm not happening to you as important in your life, maybe I'm not important at all," she said.

If you find yourself in a situation where you want a narcissist out of your life, but they always seem to show up, stick to your boundaries and try to understand why they are acting this way.

A narcissist's reactions to no contact depend on the type they embody

Some people move on as if they don't know you anymore. "Extroverted" narcissists view their success as proof that they are better than others, and this could be the case for a grandiose narcissist," he said.

They really don't need you that much because it sustains their self- inflated view. A no-contact rule could cause a grandiose narcissist to react negatively.

They may see a no-contact boundary as an injury to themselves, and think, "How could you not want to do with me?" How could you not think about me?

They may try to contact you more often because of this thought.

Despite attempts to cut them off, vulnerable narcissists may still contact you because of their self-centeredness to themselves. They are more likely to lean into victimhood.

"No one has suffered as much as me, and certainly no one in this relationship has suffered as much as me," is an attempt to guilt-trip you into bending to their desire for attention.

There is a constant reminder of the hurt that you caused.

The best response is no response, according to a psychologist who works with narcissists

Staying firm in your no-contact boundary is the best way to disengage from a narcissist.

You reinforce their entitlement when you tell them you are cutting off for good. Instead, he tells his clients to block their social media accounts and phone numbers because of their relationship with a narcissist.

All they're doing is reaching out in fear now that they're in a panic. He said it was not about you.

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