Wouldn't it have been great to have a road map at the beginning of your relationship?
According to the U.S. Census, over 90 percent of Americans over the age of 60 have been married.
A couple wants to help through their book. Each of the Go-Giver books starts with a parable and weaves in five secrets or importantTakeaways.
This is the first book that focuses on personal relationships and it's the other books that are business focused. John David Mann and his wife Ana Gabriel Mann wrote a novel together called "The Go-Giver Marriage."
The first Go-Giver book was written by John. The power of giving in business could be applied to giving in marriage.
The couple kept the idea in the back of their minds for a long time. The book was written at a good time.
The people were spending a lot of time together. It was difficult for a lot of people.
The Go-Giver Marriage starts with a parable about a couple. The challenges they face are learned throughout the story. They learned about the five secrets to a happy and healthy marriage from their friends.
Two couples have already been helped by the book.
When Harjeet Rathour and Satwinder Rodh were young, they got together through an arranged marriage in India. The couple has worked on their marriage for 19 years.
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Rathour recommended the book to her husband after reading it. She joined the Go-Giver online community and learned that the Manns were writing a book about marriage.
I suggested that my husband listen to the audiobook after reading The Go-Giver Marriage. He put one of the secrets into practice after reading it. He sent me a text that said how much he appreciated me and why. I was blown away by it.
The couple who used the book's secrets is in a long distance marriage. Bill Ellis and Tara Rogers-Ellis are in different parts of the country. They've been together for 10 years and have been married for more than six years.
Both of them are certified Go-Giver coaches. Rogers-Ellis is the owner of a communications and PR company.
Rogers-Ellis says that the 'Go-Giver Marriage' takes the same business principles and applies them in a more direct way.
The fifth secret is not the same as the others. Being generous with the other person is one of the first secrets in the book. It's about being generous with yourself. Taking care of yourself is what it's about. Ellis likes it the most.
The Manns say that you owe it to your partner to grow. It's important to bring your best self to a long-term marriage. The best way to find and create that best self is through the fifth secret.
Ellis says that your partner can be involved in that growth. He saysTara helped him push past his comfort zone. She helps me by suggesting activities that were way beyond what I thought I could do.
He says that she holds the mirror up so he can see the things he can't see in others.
In long-term marriages, the fifth secret is especially powerful. The relationship can be affected by the fact that one or both aren't growing over time. You are Stagnating if you have nothing new to offer. Remaining curious, learning, and sharing new experiences help relationships stay healthy.
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One of the most powerful things our readers tell us is that love is a practice. The emotional feeling you get when you first fall in love isn't based on reality Love is a series of actions that you take each day to keep it alive.
John Mann cautions against common challenges as he puts the five secrets into practice.
He says that sometimes we slip into a transactional mode where the dynamic of our marriage is you versus me. It is not a 50-50 marriage. It's a formula for failure. One person may be doing the dishes more than the other. The key is to support whoever is in need the most.
If only one member of the couple starts using the secrets, the Manns suggest that your marriage will improve.
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If you appreciate your spouse four or five times a day, it will take you five minutes of your day to appreciate them. The spouse will almost melt when it is done authentically and powerfully.
The secrets from the book are being shared with their children by both couples.
Rogers-Ellis' daughter is getting married. The principles from "The Go-Giver Marriage" are something I am considering using.
The 50-year-old Mermaid is a group of women who share their learnings and experiences on living their best lives after 50. There is a website for her.
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