20 Essential Truths That Women Over 50 Want to Share With Younger Women


Do you know that there’s something that happens to a woman when she turns 50?

Call it an awakening of sorts; or, for so many, a tipping point.

It’s as if a cloud has been lifted and you’re finally able to see what really matters in life.

The realization hits you hard that you’ve been on this earth for a half a century and that your time is limited.

There’s a feeling of both freedom and urgency that happens with this coming of age.

It’s an opportunity to ruthlessly analyze your life: where you’ve succeeded and where you’ve failed, opportunities you’ve passed up and those that you’ve taken advantage of, what about yourself and your life that you love and what you want to change; and most importantly, how you want to journey through this next phase of your life.

In looking back to my 20s, 30s, or 40s, I wish a wiser and older woman had taken the time to offer me a road map for creating a life of meaning, creativity, and joy.

It would have saved me a lot of wasted time, confusion, and worry. And it would have given me clarity, a sense of calm, focus, and self-assuredness as I journeyed through this very complex world of ours.

Here are 20 Essential Truths that I want to share with women under 50.

8. Develop a daily gratitude practice. It literally takes 5 minutes to integrate a gratitude practice into your daily life. I love sitting in the morning with a notebook and taking stock of what I’m grateful for. Whatever comes to my mind, I write down in a quick list format. The key to getting the most bang for your buck from this exercise is to allow yourself to experience the feeling of gratitude. For example, if you’re truly grateful for the delicious cup of fresh morning coffee you’re drinking, take a deep breath and ‘feel gratitude’ for that cup of coffee.

16. Own and develop your creativity. Our culture has led us to believe that only a designated percentage of women are creative. Not true! You were born creative: it’s your birthright. Find ways to exercise your creativity muscles and of integrating it into your everyday life (my book, Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening, is a perfect vehicle for teaching you how to experience a creative and joyful life.)

Fran Sorin is a coach and author of the highly acclaimed book, Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening. She is also an inspirational speaker, interfaith minister, and CBS radio news and Psychology Today contributor. She has spent the past 30 years working on herself and with clients on how to live more creatively. Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening is available on Amazon, BarnesandNoble.com, Barnes and Noble stores, and other online and neighborhood booksellers.

Fran’s website, fransorin, focuses on personal development and offers free resources to help improve your life.